Individual Therapy

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The beginning of emotional and sexual intimacy starts with you, your own sensuality, joy, and curiosity, then expands outward to the connectedness of your relationships with those close to you.

Together we can understand and evolve your relationship with intimacy.  

AREAS OF EXPERTISE ➛
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Areas of Expertise in Individual Therapy

  • Do you feel as if you never get past that first stage of falling in love?

    You give yourself so completely, that you become dependent on your partner's affections, and in doing so, you lose yourself.

    The emotional intoxication of falling in love can signal love addition.

    Like other addictions, the euphoria that results, just at the thought of the object to which you're addicted—in this case, the feelings for a lover can become overwhelming and you set yourself aside to focus on them.

    Learn more about love addiction and take the self-test and contact me to get started.

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  • Do you find that you have unrealistic expectations of how you partner should act, sexually? 

    Is porn shaping your thoughts, desires, behaviors? 

    Is it a subject that's becoming an issue in your relationship or making you feel out of control? 

    Do you feel as if you're keeping secrets and ultimately hurting your partner or spouse with the secrecy?

    As a Certified Sex Therapist, I have expertise and advanced training to help you with specialized treatment.

    Learn more about porn addiction here, take the self-test, and contact me to get started today.

  • I specialize in Sexual Anorexia, defined as an aversion to sexual intimacy.

    It is the opposite end of the spectrum of sex addiction and manifests in deprivation.

    If you find that you're avoiding sex and sometimes even touch at all costs, I can help. 

    Working together, we'll explore the origins of when and how this issue developed for you so that you can return—or experience for the first time, healthy, exciting sexuality with yourself and your partner.

  • Finding out you've been betrayed may have upended your life terribly and left you feeling devastated. 

    Overwhelming questions may invade your thoughts:  "How does this affect the rest of my life?" "How can I make it through this?" "Was my whole marriage a lie?" and more.

    You don’t need to feel alone any longer. I am here to help you gain self-compassion and create self-care strategies.

    We will:

    • Work through the feelings of shock and trauma.

    • Identify emotional triggers

    • Build trust once again.

    Learn more about Partner Betrayal Trauma here and contact me to get started on your recovery. I am here for you.

  • One of my areas of expertise is in Pia Mellody’s Codependency model. Pia was widely known as one of the preeminent authorities in the fields of addiction and relationships.

    Codependency is a condition which causes individuals to look to external references for self-worth and validation.

    According to Pia’s model, there are five areas that define codependency, and these are at the origin of most people’s unhappiness:

    1. Self-esteem issues

    2. Boundary issues

    3. Moderation issues

    4. Reality issues

    5. Dependency issues

    No matter the issue, I find this work comes into play in some way for every client.

    “Maintaining respect in the face of relational difficulties requires the practice of boundaries that gives us the gift of controlled vulnerability.” —Pia Mellody

  • Both of these states are a signal that you are not living in the moment.

    Anxiety is future tripping about what could happen and depression are regrets about what has happened.

    Both take you out of the reality of the here and the now.

    In our work together, we will explore how anxiety and depression have robbed you of joy in your life.

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